September 28, 2009

Hair Drama

My hair stresses me out. It never seems to do what I ask, and I don't ask for much. I take care of it, nurse it. The money I have spent over the years on hair products could pay for college--ok maybe just the first semester.
Now I need a haircut, this is the bane of the relationship my hair and I share. I can never get the haircut I want.There is a picture in my head  of how I wnat my hair to look. I see it on tons of people all the time, but I can never find someone to cut it just the way I want or someone that my hair responds well to. I have unruly and stubborn hair.
I found a salon and I was so tempted to go but my co-worker is a hairstylist, well she is going to school to be a hairstylist and we began talking and somehow it was decided that I would let her cut my hair.
I am getting worried as we delve deeper into the conversations. Should I trust her to cut my hair having never seen anything she has done or go with someone whose work I have seen.
I am stuck, I already said yes. I would feel bad going back on my word, how akward our working environment would be.
At the end of the day, it's only hair, eek mine takes years to grow back.

My hair muse is Malinda Williams. I love her look. She always looks so fab.  I'm praying I don't have to wear a wig after this.

 Ok, I would be happy with any of these cuts. Keeping my fingers crossed and trusting that she isn't wasting her money in hair school.

September 20, 2009

I ran into a friend today who went to the same high school as me.
Our conversation hit on the subject of men and our lack of one.
Turns out we have both been told that we are too picky, which is directly related to our singleness.
We both have similar preferences, particularly the way men approach us.
We hate when men whistle at us, or "holla" at us. We hate to be referred to as "ma", "shorty" or any similar slang word when miss would be sufficient.
I don't think that this is being picky, I actually like my men to have the ability to speak intelligently and approach me with respect. Being called Ma is not my idea of an polite and respectful approach.
There are a few other preferences which I don't believe to be unreasonable.
Men have their preferences, I may not be every man's idea of the perfect catch so why should I have to lower my standards to get a man.
I can't comprise certain values.

September 17, 2009


So Fashion week is in progress and as a lover of fashion, I can't help but comment on some of the looks that  caught my attention.

 This is from the Bagdley Mischka runway show. I love this look. White is just so classic and the red shoes add some spice to the look. I actually love everything from this collection, the designs are chic, feminine and with just the right dose of sexy.


I got this picture from one of my favorite fashion blogs, It is from the Nanette Lepore collection. The color is beautiful and vibrant without being vulgar. The dress is simple and easy to wear. The shoes are on fire too.

Work-In Progress

It has been a long time since I have blogged, for several valid reasons might I add.
I've been busy with school and work, and I didn't have much to write about; this being the most valid reason.
Truth be told, that is not the truth. There has been so much on my mind but I simply ignore my thoughts.
I'm sure this would fall under some category of self-cruelty.
This is becoming a frequent occurence.
I don't write poetry anymore, I don't push myself to achieve anything. So what is going on with me?I'm beginning to think it is a serious lack of self confidence.

I don't give myself enough credit for my abilities and to make matters worse, I have a terrible pattern of self-destruction.
Both of these problems seem to be related.
It is something I have to pray about.
God wants his children to be successful and to be confident about the talents he has blessed us with.
Too many times as Chrisitans we fail to realize how mighty and powerful we are. We have the strength of God behind us, and we need to embrace and leverage that.
"I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" Philippians 4:13
This is the motto by which I will live my life.
Anything I put my mind to with the help of God, is attainable. I have to believe this and challenge myself for success. Focusing on my thoughts and acknowledging them is critical to the process.
I am a work in progress and I know I will not change overnight but I'm getting there.

September 3, 2009


Lately I have been thinking about the people in my life and who I call friends.
I have been fortunate when it comes to making friends, some of the disappointments that other people have experienced from friendships seem to have eluded me. I attribute this to several factors.
1. I realize that not all friendships are meant to be forever. People come into our lives for a time and for a reason. Friendships don't come with expiration dates or a shelf life. They can last for 6 months, 10 years or a lifetime. Enjoy what you have and make the best of it.
2. True frienships require a hundred percent trust. Simple as that, you have to trust the people.
3. Be the kind of friend you want someone to be to you. You get what you give.
4. Realize that people are not infallible, they mess up and they disappoint. I don't use the failings of one person to judge all. I deal with that person and I move on. Everyone gets a fair chance til they mess up.

These are my guide posts for friendships. Not all experiences have been wonderful, I have been disappointed sometimes but I chalk it up to life.

The friendships I do I have, I try to make them work. I give my best and pray for reciprocity.

September 2, 2009


Nothing profound to write about.
School started and I am tired.
I thought this would have been an easy semester being that it is my last, but I was wrong. It is already obvious that it will not be easy coasting. A 10 page paper, a business plan and a 5000 word magazine article. I have not done so much writing in my entire 2 yrs at Hunter College, but I will have to accomplish that in 1 semester.
I am lazy, I know that. I hate having to do all that work, my mind is revolting against the thought of writing these papers by refusing to think. This will certainly be a challenge, but one that I must successfully face.
All I can do is pray for guidance and help from God. He is the key to my success.