May 30, 2011

Memorial Day Weekend

Ahhh...the long weekend is almost over. I always hate this part of break, the anticipation of going back to work. deep sigh

Anywho, I had a great weekend. I hung out with my besties and my god-baby. She is so cute. She makes me want to have one of my own. I guess that feeling comes after you reach a certain age because it's been coming a lot.

I got some much needed rest and finished up some final assignments for the semester. Yay! My first year of grad school is almost over. Time flies so fast. Now to make it through the next year.

Heading out to a street fstival in a little to enjoy what's left of my Memeorial Day break.

My sister friends and I

May 23, 2011

Rant on Beyonce- call me a hater if you please.

On the heels of my post about Oprah and how she has been a symbol of female empowerment I am writing this post about someone who I find beyond repulsive. I realize that this is a strong word but it is the best word that I can find to capture what  I truly feel.

Ok, so it's Beyonce. My blood boils every time I see her. I can't stand her pseudo female empowerment bs she has going. Ok so she is rich but at what cost? Shaking your ass in revealing outfits, being overtly sexual and singing dumb songs is not my idea of a woman who is empowered. I think it contributes to the stereotypical ideals of beauty and sexuality. It is not ok to dress like a slut and sound like a fool. No wonder so many black women are confused about how they need to look and behave.

Don't get me wrong she is not the only artist out there who acts like this. Rihanna, Keri Hilson and Nicki Minaj are just a few of the others that come to mind. But what gets me is that Beyonce tries to come off as this sweet, Christianly southern girl  with high morals. Yeah Right!!! Be true to yourself. At least Rihanna doesn't front like she is innocent.

I got it off my chest. Whew!


Bye Oprah, I love you!

Oprah's show is coming to an end and I, like many millions of people am feeling uber-sad. I love the O. She is the epitome of what it means to be a woman and empowered.

I have learned many things from watching the show but I think if I had to pick one defining lesson it would have to be her advice to "live the authentic you." I have carried this with me forever.

My life has revolved around being myself and being true to who I am. I try never to compromise who I am for the sake of getting people to like me or to fit in. I strive to make myself better and to be happy with who I am and what I can accomplish.

She has also taught me that despite your circumstances, background or whatever other obstacles may come your way you can do anything you set your mind to. I always knew this but her life has solidified this knowledge and belief.

To say I will miss her is an understatement. Farewell Miss O.


May 22, 2011

Hair Muse

 I found this picture on Essence and totally love her hair. I am still doing my research for what the heck to do with my hair when I finally take the braids out. I'm not going to lie, I am SCARED. Lol. I'm afraid of what I will look like, afraid that I won't be perceived as pretty anymore. All kinds of nonsensical thoughts that are based on nothing.
At the same time, I am super excited to get all the perm grown out and my real texture comes out. I'll probably been in braids until the new year. I need more length and braids seem to do the trick. We'll see what happens.

On Relationships and Settling

I was thinking about the relationships of some of my friends  and I realized that it is far better to be single than to be in a relationship that causes you to compromise who you are as a person.
Not to say I haven't done that before, I wasn't always this smart about relationships. Trust me it takes years to develop wisdom. I am grateful though that I've always had a strong sense of who I am because of this, there are few things I've done or past relationships that I regret. The couple bad relationships were part of the learning process and helped me to become even stronger about what I expect from a mate.

Sometimes I miss being in a relationship. I'm at the age where it seems everyone is married with kids and I feel like I missed the boat, but I think about the times I've gone into relationships simply to fill that void and it never works. You end up settling for less than you deserve and is totally not worth it. I just have to be patient and wait for God to work it all out.

I know my value and I know what I can bring to a relationship. Am I perfect? Absolutely not but I've learned a lot about how to treat someone with respect and to be honest, and these two things go a long way in making a relationship successful. My philosophy is to treat your mate the way you want to be treated. I have the same philosophy for friendships and I think it works great.

Anyway, I was just airing my thoughts on this. It's rather a jumble of things that I wanted to get out of my head. So you get to be the lucky one who endures my randomeness. Thanks


May 3, 2011


So I decided to clean out my closet and finally get rid of all the clothes I could but can no longer fit (I was hoping that I would get skinny again). All they were doing was taking up space in my room and causing clutter.
My co-worker and friend once mentioned that I should give her anything I no longer want. She loves my clothes and I know she would wear them and appreciate them. So she was the first person I thought of. I bagged the stuff and delivered them, it was so great to see how excited she was. I felt like Santa Claus, lol. My babies were going to a good home.
Anywho, she comes in today and tells me she has a gift for me. I was super was a bag of Tarte make-up. I'm guessing that its over 200 hundred dollars worth of stuff. Talk about make-upgasm. Lol, just made that up.
I can't wait to try all this fab stuff. Wohoooooo...

Also exhcnaged a ring with a friend for a gorgeous Kate Spade necklace. Lol, what a good way to get rid of things you no longer wear.