So I came across this picture on Instagram and it made me laugh out loud becasue it literally sums up my experiences with online dating and come to think of it, just dating in general.
I'll preface by saying, I haven't given up on love and I'm still a romantic at heart.
In an attempt to find my true love, once upon a long time ago I ventured into the world of online dating. I didn't last very long.
I tried both paid and free websites and the results were always the same. I would get passed over by the seemingly well put together and intelligent men, only to be contacted by the guy who spelled "cool" with a k and the guy who told me he would be honored to lick my feet in his very first message to me.
Real life dating hasn't brought me any better luck. I've been followed around the mall by creepy old men, or I meet guys who make me question my faith in humanity.
Take for instance the guy who told me between sips of his alcoholic beverage that I'm his type because I'm "chubby". Who says that? Or the guy in Thailand who after seeing me twice with hardly any kind of conversation, asked if I would spend the night with him. Then there was the French guy who wanted to add me to his list of international flings because he had never "been with a Jamaican girl". Hard pass on all occasions.
Those are the memories that my subconscious hasn't blocked out, the others are way too traumatic to remember.
I'm not even going to try anymore. And if one more person tells me I need to "go out more" or to " stop being so picky" I swear I'm going to tae bo kick them in the throat.
While it would be amazing to meet the man of my dreams like yesterday, I am not going to worry about it. I'm just going to continue to live my life and do the things I love and when the time is right, the man who God intends for me will come my way. That's about all I can do short of wearing a sign around my neck that says "single, looking for husband".
Well, there is always positive thinking.
After reading this great post about finding your soulmate, I think I need to take the writer's advice.
She suggests making a list of all the qualities you want in a partner; it should be very specific but realistic.
The power of positive thinking/energy will take care of the rest.
My pastor at church gave me the same advice. Not just for a partner but for all the things I wanted in life. I never did but I'm reconsidering.
It would certainly save me the trouble of actually dating.
Seriously, give the post a read and see what you think.
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